Sunday, June 21, 2015

Going with the Flow

I see that my last post was April 2, 2015, two days before Sunny's Mom passed away. Sometimes life has a way of moving us in directions that we never intended to go, but we have to head that way regardless.

A year ago, I may have run away if someone would've told me what the next few months would entail. I was still grieving my own Mom's passing. Then Sunny's Mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. I look back now and see how God graced me...us to be able to handle this extremely hard yet rewarding task of allowing her to die with dignity in her own home.

Her cancer was early stage, but combined with late-stage COPD and because of her age, she decided to forego any treatment and began Hospice at home. Other complications began in January which required us to be with her 24/7. (We lived conveniently around the corner.) My oldest daughter Chels who is 27, and I tag teamed staying with her. Our youngest, Grace, stayed with us and helped where she could. Sunny and I could not have honored her wishes to stay home had my daughters not helped. We are forever grateful for our beautiful girls! Sunny's sister came and stayed the last two weeks before she passed away which was extremely helpful as well.

Proverbs 3: 5,6 says:
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.

I guess we have a new understanding of the saying, "Going with the flow"!

It's All Good!

Brenda

7 comments:

  1. I know it was hard, but something you will never regret. What a blessing to have family like this!
    PS - I love the new header. As Grace gets older, she looks so much like Chelsea. Beautiful girls!

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  2. It's nice to read a get caught up on what's happening (even though I knew some through Facebook). I love the look of your page. I'm really enjoying getting to know Grace through Facebook. She's quite a gal. Sonny's one lucky fella to have you. Blessings, girl.

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  3. My husband has worked in hospice for over 14 years now. It's wonderful to give the patient what they desire, which is usually to be at home.

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  4. My heart goes out to you, especially having your m-i-l's illness follow so soon after the loss of your mom. I don't remember if I mentioned it or not, but we have had my m-i-l in our home for almost two years now. She was in a nursing home and had gotten down to 92 pounds, and we thought we were bringing her home to die. But she put some weight back on and perked up with one-on-one care. Thankfully she has enough funds that we're able to hire someone to help a few hours a day (my husband's siblings all live 2,000 miles away from us). That gives us a break to run errands or just not have to think about care-giving for a while. We did just start hospice care, and thankfully Medicare pays for that. The biggest asset there, so far, is we have 24-hour access to a nurse on call who can come to the house if she's having any problems.

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    1. Yes, Barbara, I did know about your MIL living with you. God bless you during this time. I will be the first to admit, it was the hardest and most challenging thing I have ever had to do.

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    2. Yes, Barbara, I did know about your MIL living with you. God bless you during this time. I will be the first to admit, it was the hardest and most challenging thing I have ever had to do.

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  5. I cried as I read this beautiful blog this morning, because of the love it displays, and because of staying all those days (her husband never wanted me to stay over night) with our daughter, Suzette, and that we had moved my mother, Pauline, in with us the last years of her life. FAMILY - nothing spells that out or demonstrates it more than your blog. (((hugs)))

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