Saturday, February 21, 2009

Amber asked

Let's not get so excited, shall we?!

This is from my niece, Amber on the subject of home schooling.

How is homeschooling with Grace? [our 7-year old] How did you make it through high school homeschooling Chelsie [21 now]? There are days I'm not sure if I can homeschool another day, then there are the days, like our Science Fun day, that keep me going. But I have to be honest, I am concerned about the H.S. years!!!
Homeschooling Grace is a completely different experience than it was with Chelsie. Don't get me wrong, I love doing this. It's just a little more challenging and takes a little more time on my part with Grace, because she is a completely different learner than I am. I'm learning how to 'get in her head' and see how she processes her instructions and school work and flow with that.

As for making it through the highschool years with Chelsie, you'd probably be better off asking her--no don't, she might tell you things I don't want to hear!

When Chels began 9th grade we purchased an entire highschool curriculum covering the book of Genesis, which of course incorporated all of the necessary academic subjects required for each year. It was an excellent curriculum, but the first year was almost entirely science-oriented. I know you're probably thinking, 'Well duh, you're talking the book of Genesis'! We worked out of every science book--earth, biology, chemistry--and it was a hiney-kicker for sure. Because neither of our brains lean towards the scientific, it was hard to understand and retain. Our mantra for that year was 'glean'. Let's just glean what we can out of this. It did get easier.

I was also fortunate that Sunny was a whiz at math, because he was able to continue helping where math left me--I believe that was about 3rd grade!!! ;)

We chose to homeschool through the highschool years because we felt it was the best choice for Chels all the way around. We especially enjoyed the freedom to do things, go places and visit folks without being tied down to a public school schedule.

I know it can be so frustrating at times for you, especially having 3 kiddos. Because of the 13-year age difference between our girls, we've obviously raised/are raising them one at a time! But even with one, there are days when you feel like pulling your hair out. Let's face it, we live in a fun-oriented world. A lot of children have the idea that if something isn't fun or exciting, then it's BOORRRING! One thing that we're helping Grace with is understanding that some of the subjects aren't always going to be 'fun and games', just like doing laundry or the dishes isn't 'fun' for me, but it has to get done regardless. (Remember our science?!)

The biggest challenge is getting a handle on their different learning styles, like I mentioned above, and trying to patiently flow with that. Which means what works for one child won't necessarily work for another. For instance, it was a breeze for Chels to learn how to read. She picked up books and has never put them down. With Grace, it hasn't actually been until this year that she's shown a real desire to read on her own, and that has to be out loud. She still hasn't got the concept of reading silently to herself. She'd rather be dancing! I actually know of some who don't 'get' reading until 9 or 10, and there's nothing wrong with that.

And then there are the days when the sweet little princess wakes up on the wrong side of the bed (that would be me)! That's when I say, DAY OFF! And then off we go to the library, or the park and just spend time together outside of the house. I actually did this yesterday (Wed.). It was a nice day to regroup, and I just had her do a little extra today.

Three more thoughts:

-- Because of the undivided attention you can give each of your kiddos, they are probably learning far more than you think--even when everyone might be having a bad day.

--Never compare your child's progress with that of another child. You know your kiddo best and know what works for them.

--Relax, and make sure your kids know who's the Teacher!

I don't claim to know everything there is to know about home education even after graduating Chels. But, there are so many resources, groups, blogs, web sites etc. out there that can answer about any question you or anyone might have.
(((You're an excellent Mom, Amber, and doing a fine job!)))
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  1. Never having home schooled I always enjoy reading about you home school mothers. This was a great, informative post. Kids are different, PERIOD, not just in school learning. Having raise 4 I can attest to that.

  2. I think my kids would do well being homeshcooled but I am not disciplined enough. I admire you because I KNOW you have to be organized to accomplish what you do on a daily basis.

    And I think all three of my kids would learn differently too.

  3. If I had it to do over again, I might home school. Of course Jessica is now 21 so that's all water under the bridge now.

    I do admire you and anyone who home schools. I know it's not a decision that's made lightly and that there's a lot of work and self sacrifice that goes into it.

    Hope you have a great Sunday, Brenda. :o)

    Love and hugs,


  4. I greatly admire mothers who homeschool their children. With the schools the way they are today and the things they are taught and not taught, I think homeschooling is a terrific idea.

  5. Thank you Brenda,
    I know I am pretty hard on myself when it comes to my kids. I am confident we made the right choice to homeschool and I see something in my kids I dont often see in public school children. It is good to hear about others homeschooling "adventures" and differences. I'm sure we will have many more "pull your hair out" days but I'm positive well have even more "ah, this is why we homeschool" good days.
    Thank You again Brenda
    Love you

  6. I never home schooled my kids because back then it wasn't something that was popular or well known. I've seen many a friend home school their kids and I would do it if I had another chance because there so many benefits.

  7. I admire those who are able to home school. It seems that many are choosing that route and with good reason...considering the condition of our public schools.


  8. Your family sounds quite a bit like mine, I must say. Like the age difference. I told you before, with our daughters it was 12 and a half years, and like your girls, my oldest loved reading from the time she was a toddler. Homeschooling through high school worked well and we've never regretted it. For both my girls, ABeka video is our answer. My youngest is now in tenth grade and somehow, we're getting through. At least I hope.
    I liked the way you so thoroughly expresed your homeschool experience.
    It is not the perfect answer for all, but it's the best schooling situation for many folks.
    And yes, the flexibility it affords you as a family cannot be beat.


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